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Non–violent communication

“Dhoni is the best captain I played under.” Tendulkar
“Indians not as large hearted as us.” Afridi

These two statements made the headlines a few days back: one by Sachin Tendulkar and the other by Shahid Afridi of Pakistan. Both headlines are enough to send shivers amongst the Indians or the cricket lovers.

Many may argue that there is nothing wrong with these statements as they are nothing but individual opinions of Sachin Tendulkar and Shahid Afridi, respectively. But going into the scientific explanations both can be classified as violent communications.

Most of us engage in violent communication on a daily basis and that is what causes conflict. A violent communication is based on ‘judgment’ and not ‘observation’; giving ‘orders’ and not ‘request’ and are based on fault finding of others.

For example, “Srisanth is not a good player” is a judgment and a violent communication. “In my opinion Srisanth is a not a good player”, is a personal opinion and may not be a violent communication.

Afridi’s statement above is a violent communication. Though Sachin’s statement is a personal statement and opinion but can end up into a violent communication as these types of statements are not expected from him. This a fault–finding statement. It will annoy other previous captains and their followers. What if any of the past captains say “ok, we were bad but were still better than Sachin as a captain.”

A personal opinion can be a violent opinion, if it is against a person, caste or creed or the nation. The principles of non–violent communication must be taught at the school level and should be understood by journalists as well as politicians.

“Indians are not as large hearted as us,” this statement of Afridi was his personal opinion and comes under non–violent communication but because it was against the nation, it is bound to find reaction from Indian community. The number one cause of misunderstanding, hatred, jealousy etc. is our day–to–day violent communications.

Dr KK Aggarwal
Editor in Chief